What makes you feel happy? What does a feeling of happiness give you? Conversely, what makes you feel unhappy? What does a feeling of unhappiness give you? What does a feeling of unhappiness take away from you? These are not rhetorical questions just for the sake of asking. They are questions that go deep into the way we live our lives. These questions challenge the way you think about the people you have considered important in your live. They challenge the way you think about members of your immediate and extended family, your close friends, your colleagues, your boss, your neighbours, etc. They challenge the way you think about people you meet in public places such as when walking along the road, standing at a bus stop, shopping in a supermarket, riding in a train, queuing to buy a stamp in your local Post Office, driving your car on the high street or cycling along the road. They affect the way you think just about anything or anyone you meet on a daily basis.
What is responsible for your changing feeling of happiness? Happiness is a constant factor, a spirit that resides in every one of us. Psychologists have confirmed that we are at our highest performance when we are happy. The opposite also holds true. Happiness is inside of every one of us. You only need to activate your own. You have the power to switch it on and off just like your electric current to light up your bulb. Happiness does not change. It originates from your Creator. It flows from and back to your Source.
You are therefore happiness. You were born into happiness, you live in happiness and you will go back to happiness. The person next to you is happiness. There is happiness in everyone and in everything created by God. Happiness is the nature of everyone and everything that God has created. All members of your family both immediate and extended are happiness. All your friends, all your neighbours, all your colleagues, and even your boss are happiness. Everyone you meet on the road is happiness.
The question therefore is, how can happiness depart from happiness and go into happiness and become unhappiness? It is illogical to me. It does not make any sense at all.
The reason for that is your thought. Your thought is the changing factor. Human thoughts have both positive and negative energy. Your thought is like the switch that controls when you have light or darkness in your living room. You can use your thoughts to switch your happiness on and off as and when you choose to. It is totally in your control. You manage the switch using the power of your mind. When your thought is negative, you act negatively. When you act negatively, your spirit of happiness becomes totally disempowered. You disconnect it from your Source. Negative thoughts are not in alignment with your Source. Unhappiness is incongruent with your Creator. Your persistent feeling of unhappiness leads to stressful thoughts. Prolong period of stressful thoughts leads to depression, the antonym of happiness.
At any point in time, you have a choice of acting either depressively or happily. An extended period of depressive actions brings sadness into your life. Your body becomes a natural habitat for all sorts of dis-ease. On the other hand, an extended period of happy actions brings peace, love, harmony, kindness, joy and good health in your life.
You are the architect of your own life. You hold no one or anything responsible for how you choose to live your live. Nobody can make you feel unhappy without your permission.
One of the things that easily bring a feeling of unhappiness into my own life is whenever I have a disagreement with a family member, a friend, a colleague, a neighbour or anybody and I have no opportunity for reconciliation. I run away from such situations like a plague. If possible, I will not sleep until I settle the matter. This is even when I strongly belief that I am right. I go the extra mile to settle. My willingness to settle ensures a constant flow of happy feelings into my life. I feel at peace with myself. Even when the other party fails to reconcile, once the spirit of reconciliation that is already inside of me opens its gate and overwhelms me with compassion, I feel totally librated. This generates positive thoughts leading on to a happy feeling, which flow right from inside of me and spread to everyone around.
Forgiveness is the tonic you need to be taking on a regular basis in order to ensure a constant flow of happy feelings into your life. Remember the saying, “to err is human, to forgive is divine”. Forgiveness is the spirit of reconciliation. It is the spirit of peace and harmony. It is the spirit of kindness and love. Every one of us has this spirit residing within. Lack of forgiveness brings negative thoughts and unhappy feeling. While the person you are not forgiving is out there partying and enjoying life to the full, you locked yourself inside your room in gloom. Who is suffering?
To develop and nourish your spirit of reconciliation, you must first learn to stop taking yourself too seriously. Second, you must learn to forgive yourself any time you feel unhappy. Third, you must learn to forgive anyone that tries to make you feel unhappy. Fourth, you must learn to manage your thoughts using negative and positive switches. Fifth, you must learn when to use the negative switch and when to use the positive switch. Sixth, you must learn when to use the positive switch to generate a happy feeling and when to use the negative switch to stop an unhappy feeling to set in. Remember, no one can make you feel unhappy unless you give him or her permission.
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