Discussing Problems with people

Beware of people you discuss your problems with. Some could be the problem.

Integrity

Integrity is the courage to defend what you believe in even when it makes you unpopular.

The Power of Effective Criticism and Inspiring Feedback

Let your criticisms of your staff be inspiring and your feedbacks empowering. These do not have to be patronising but they must make sense to the person(s) receiving them. This is what turns a perceived lackadaisical worker to one that goes the extra mile. Everyone is a winner.

When you seek the success of others, you secure your own success

There will be a time in your career when a strong desire for progress will tempt you to do things intended to undermine a collleage.  Anytime you do such things, you are acknowledging your denial of your authentic self. You are undermining the entire basis of your being. This is not a way to achieve sustainable personal success, happiness and inner peace. If you want success for yourself, you must first want it for others. This is another great mystery of the universe.

The Awesome People in my Life

I thank you, Lord, for all the people you have surrounded me with, at home, at work and within my church community. You have used these awesome people to bless me in so many ways. They all accept me as I am and not who they expect me to be.

Relationship Boundary

In all relationships, social, work or home, when you know and respect the personal boundary each member would not like you to cross, you have laid a foundation for living happily and peacefully in that relationship.

Lao Tzu Quote

"When you are content to be simply yourself and don't compare or compete, everybody will respect you." ~ Lao Tzu

The Sweet Reward of Persistence

Once you are convinced that you need a 'Yes' answer from a particular person in order for you to take the next step towards achieving a desired goal, you must never accept a 'No' answer from that person. You must persist with subtlety and optimism. You must ignore any obvious or apparent snobbery and keep asking until you get what you want. Remember the persistent biblical widow and the judge who refused her plea to please, "Grant me justice against my adversary."

When your determination to achieve anything in any area of your life is greater than any obstacle put in your way, you can count on Patience and Persistence to overcome them.

Your Decision Making Process

There are some decisions in life that we must make using our heads. There are others we must make using our hearts. There are yet some we must make using both. Knowing how and when to use them in our day to day decision making process is fundamental to personal well being and happiness.

Your Life-long Teachers

The beauty of life-long learning is that you can find your teachers everywhere around you - in your home, at your work place, on the streets, and just about anywhere you go. To recognise each of your life-long teachers, you must learn to use your power of observation and active listening to notice and understand how and why the ending of one event leads to the beginning of another in an unbroken chain of life.

What do I hold in store for 2014?

At this time of the year, some people will be asking the question, What does the new year hold in store for me? Others will be asking the question, What do I hold in store for the new year. The two questions are opposite energies. They are inextricably linked together in the natural flow of things. When you make 2014 a year for thinking more about what you have in store for the year, the year will begin to unfold what it has in store for you.

Happy, Reflective and Focused 2014

MAM Coaching welcomes comments and feedback from readers and friends. That is how we can learn from each other. Life is never over until God says it is completely over. This is a year of positive changes. Be part of the change. This means we must start to think differently and  act differently. That is what the universe expects from everyone of us in 2014. Happy, reflective and focused 2014. 

Dealing With Bullying

When dealing with a bullying colleague either at work or in any relationship, always have it at the back of your mind that the bullying has absolutely nothing to do with you. Even though it is directed at you, the best way to deflect it is knowing that it has everything to do with the person bullying and that's because of his or her insecurity. This lets you develop the inner energy to rise up over and above the character of the bully. Both of you will be operating at different wavelengths, you above and the