Between Stimulus and Response

It's not what people do or say to you that matters. You have no control over them. It's how you respond. Learning to insert a space between stimulus and response is a great start to developing emotional intelligence skill. Hard as this may be, it is what you need to build happy and long-lasting relationships that can withstand the test of time, at home, work or social life.

Helping others is Helping yourself

Whatever you do to enhance the progress of another person, you do it to enhance your own  progress. The reverse of the action is equally true. This is another mystery of life and living.

You are the architect of our own happiness

The only person that can make you happy is......................yourself.

Love has no colour

Our core human values have no division. They have no colour. They have no status. Love, kindness and compassion have no religious denomination. Happiness, joy and peace have no colour. Forgiveness, tolerance and respect for others have no status. The more we can focus on showing love, kindness and compassion to one another, the less we will see the need for doctrinal divisions amongst the various religions. The more we can concentrate on what makes human beings happy and peaceful, the less we will notice the differences in each other’s colour or race. The more we can focus on our common humanity and sameness, the more will be our ability to be tolerant of each other, respect individual differences and forgive one another.

Perspective Taking

Whatever problem you may be going through at any point in life and space, there are three possible ways of thinking that will help you to make your own sense of that problem. This is by way of three possible self affirmative statements: (1) "I am the cause of the problem." - the self blame. (2) "Another person is the cause of the problem." - the blaming of other. 3) "The problem is part of life and living." - the objective reality.  The first lets you blame yourself for causing the problem. The second lets you blame another person for causing the problem. The third lets you see and  understand the natural flow of events leading on to the problem.  Each of these self affirmative statements can impact on your ability to find a solution to the problem. 

Better Days Imagination

Take a moment to look back in time and space and think of things you've done so far. Think of one thing you're most proud of and reflect on it.  What made it so important to you? How did you do it? How did you feel the moment you knew you've done it? What particular skill was key to the success? What could you do now with the skill? How would you feel if you could just do it? The past created the present. The present creates the future. Real success comes from using what you've got now to get what you want in the future. If you've done something before, certainly, you can do it again...... .....even better.

The Nature of Compassion

Compassion for others is the heartbeat of human evolutionary process. It is not just about willingness to freely give to others. It is about the feelings you have for their pains and sufferings. It is about the little positive difference you can make in the lives of others by just living the nature of your being. In the words of Dalai Lama, "Compassion for another person is based on the recognition that the other person, like yourself, wants to be happy and does not want to suffer."