Perspective Taking

Whatever problem you may be going through at any point in life and space, there are three possible ways of thinking that will help you to make your own sense of that problem. This is by way of three possible self affirmative statements: (1) "I am the cause of the problem." - the self blame. (2) "Another person is the cause of the problem." - the blaming of other. 3) "The problem is part of life and living." - the objective reality.  The first lets you blame yourself for causing the problem. The second lets you blame another person for causing the problem. The third lets you see and  understand the natural flow of events leading on to the problem.  Each of these self affirmative statements can impact on your ability to find a solution to the problem. 

Better Days Imagination

Take a moment to look back in time and space and think of things you've done so far. Think of one thing you're most proud of and reflect on it.  What made it so important to you? How did you do it? How did you feel the moment you knew you've done it? What particular skill was key to the success? What could you do now with the skill? How would you feel if you could just do it? The past created the present. The present creates the future. Real success comes from using what you've got now to get what you want in the future. If you've done something before, certainly, you can do it again...... .....even better.

The Nature of Compassion

Compassion for others is the heartbeat of human evolutionary process. It is not just about willingness to freely give to others. It is about the feelings you have for their pains and sufferings. It is about the little positive difference you can make in the lives of others by just living the nature of your being. In the words of Dalai Lama, "Compassion for another person is based on the recognition that the other person, like yourself, wants to be happy and does not want to suffer."

The Power of Body Language

To know and understand people around you in more productive way, you must learn to watch the body language. It is humanity's first and most natural means of communicating with others. It came before spoken words. It is said that over 80% of what we understand about people in face to face conversation is read through movements of the body and what they wear. This inludes the use of silence.

A dream does not become a reality through magic

When you have a very severe physical pain, water comes out of your body. They call it sweat. When the pain is emotional, water comes out of your eyes. They call it tears. In the words of Jesse Jackson, "Both tears and sweat are salty, but they render a different result. Tears will get you sympathy. Sweat will get you change.". As the saying goes, "A dream does not become a reality through magic. It takes sweat, determination and hardwork. Real action to make a desired change in any area of life starts the moment you stop shedding tears for the past and get ready to sweat for what you want the future to be in that area. 

Nothing is permanent

Nature is a movement. It moves in time and space towards perfection. That is why everything in life, good or bad, is temporary. Nature does not permit anything to be permanent. So, each time you are faced with a setback, remember the nature of Nature -impermanence.

The Head of the family

There is a saying in Yoruba that literally means, "Any part of the body that Nature has chosen to be the Head must never be used as a footstool." This is applicable to the Head of the family. Anyone that Nature has chosen to be the Head of your household, you must never ever allow that Head to become your footstool even when changing circumstances begin to make it necessary for the Head to be acting as a footstool just to maintain peace in the home. At such difficult times in your relationship, you must resist the temptation to change this natural phenomenon. Another mystical hint for building and living in a sustainable happy and loving long term family relationship.